Or perhaps I should say, thoughts on wedding protocols. Culture really does make such a difference when it comes to protocol. I wonder if that is the same when it comes to RSVP ing an invitation?
There is always a deadline, of course, when you send out the invitation, but I often wonder what is the motivation for people waiting to respond until the very last second. To me, you either know you are going to go and make your arrangements (travel, child care, whatever) and then RSVP and be done OR you know you AREN’T going and you RSVP and be done. I just don’t get the wishy-washy wait for the last second thing.
I REALLY don’t get and don’t appreciate those who “just forget” or fail to respond at all. It is just plain rude and I don’t give a rat’s tail what your culture is!
With that being said, I do want to thank the ENTIRE Belgian contingency who has already RSVPd and made all necessary travel arrangements and lodging arrangements and even hair and nail arrangements!
So, I guess I am thinking about the Americans who received invitations. Mostly family, mind you, and some friends…our deadline is still several weeks away, but I can already guarantee you that I will be on the phone the last week of April making calls. How sickening is that? Bless Spec’s bridesmaids…they all offered to do this for me, and I might just let them because given how I feel about the whole, not responding thing, I’d likely permanently antagonize a relative or lose a friend.
Have you had this lovely experience? Invite people to a rather large and expensive party and then grovel to find out if they are coming to share their ‘specialness’ with you? How’d you deal with it? (tasers are acceptable to me ;P )
Better yet, if you are one of THOSE that I was talking about in this entry, might you kindly enlighten me as to your motivation for your behavior? WHOOOOOOO are you? Who–ooo are you? I really wanna know!
Nine weeks to go…..which makes retirement 8 weeks to go…..